I am one of those people who is constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. Yes, it can be annoying. But over time, it has helped me keep perspective on many situations. Do I always use this perspective? Well, not exactly. I like to have that one moment where I'm overly dramatic, and cry for like half an hour to an hour straight, in private. It doesn't help me at all, but I feel like after I have that lowest point possible of uncontrollable crying, things can only get better. I know. Crazy ass chick, right?
Over the years, this has mostly applied to guys. Yes, I wear my heart on my sleeve. And I have yet to learn better. Hopefully, I don't. Or else we'd never have any new posts. Yeah, see? Aren't you glad I'm an emotional wreck?
I was going somewhere... I wear my heart on my sleeve... Oh, yes! Because of this, because I know that although I want things to go well, and most likely they wont, I've had many chances to make myself feel better. I kinda have this routine. Yeah, I know, just another sad girl routine for when she gets her "heart broken" or whatever. I am a sad girl, so screw you! And you know what, this routine could SO maybe help you when you break up, or get broken up with. So there. In your face.
I haven't exactly perfect this routine, but this is as far as I've gotten:
1) Avoid all things that will remind you of the person: I've you've discussed certain music, movies, TV shows, etc..., avoid them all! This is the reason why I can't watch certain movies... at least for a while. And why I never discuss music. Well, that one is mostly because I really don't give a rats ass what kind of music you're into. I'ma probably think your taste in music sucks. Just like you think mine is the worst. Plus, I would never want to not be able to listen to anyone again. When it happened before with The Killers' Hot Fuss, it took me forever to get over that shit and to be able to listen to it once again.
2) Sleep... A LOT: This isn't exactly gonna help you, but guess what, it'll stop you from thinking about all the "what ifs". Those "what ifs" are the shit that can drive you crazy. And because you can't exactly stop yourself from thinking, even when busy, sleeping can help. I don't know about y'all, but I sure as hell don't think when I'm sleeping. It's nice to know that for however many hours I get to sleep, I'm not caught up in all my neurotic thoughts. Actually, I find it refreshing. And yes, I am that neurotic.
3) Eat crap: This is one of those times where you will judge yourself on what you did or didn't do. But because you'll be too busy doing that, you really have no energy to judge yourself on what you're doing at the moment. (You should really never judge yourself, but that's a topic for another post.) So... this is the perfect opportunity to eat all the crap that you wouldn't, or couldn't, in front of that person. But beware: this should only be temporary. If this is going on for more than a month, you may want to talk to someone. And if you have friends who really love you, they SHOULD slap the donut from your hand around the third week. Please keep the last two sentences in mind if you're gonna do this one.
4) Have "break up" music: And by this, I mean, have songs (playlists, albums, whatever) that are just so fucking depressing, that listening to them makes you feel slightly ashamed that you do. Mine is the album Turn Off the Bright Lights by Interpol. And here's what you do with that shit: you listen to it over, and over, until you have the song(s) stuck in your head and you feel like you're going crazy. At that point, switch it over to the happy break up song.
5) Write out your feelings: Think about it like an angry text... A long ass angry text. Where you do write sappy ass shit that would, in any other situation, make you shrivel up and die just a little on the the inside. You can write about the good parts of... whatever you had going. Or the bad. Especially of the bad. But never send it. Never. I cannot emphasize this enough. If you do, you're gonna regret it. Telling someone that they really fucked with you once you've gotten over it and moved on is okay. Sending out some weak ass bitching and moaning after being in a break up is a no. A huge NO. Even I know this. Don't do that to yourself. Doing this is for you. Later on, sometime in the future, when Tom Cruise is no longer making movies, you will come to find this and you'll think to yourself, "Fuck, man. That wasn't even that much of a big deal." Yup, you will.
6) The happy break up song: Ah, that happy break up song! It's the song that gives you perspective. It's what makes you wake up one day, realize that you truly understand its meaning, and have decided that all the sadness you've had going for the past, IDK however much amount of time, was a waste of your life. It's the song that whenever you listen to it, you come up to the conclusion that the best revenge is living a better life. It's the song that's always been in your life, and will be there when it's truly needed. Mine is "If You Wanna" by The Vaccines. It's been the happiest, of the happiest break up songs I've ever heard, and I recommend it to all.
I wish this could work for all. But it probably wont. If I could solve all your problems, fuck, I'd be a billionaire. Until then, however, I'll just be another sad chick who listens to The Vaccines whenever I get my "heart broken" or whatever.
because you asked for it...
If You Wanna by The Vaccines
and it's the demo version because, obviously, it's the best!